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aceredshirt13 · 2 months ago

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gang i have to share this P. G. Wodehouse quote with you all because ever since I found it I can't stop thinking about it. it's from a letter he wrote when he was 78 years old to his friend Guy Bolton (many thanks to P. G. Wodehouse: A Life in Letters)

I have been on the sick list myself, but am better now. Inflamed bladder or chill on the bladder or something, the symptoms being agony when I passed water, as the expression is. It brought back the brave old days when I used to get clap.

he really said "yeah the pain from my bladder issue reminds of the days when I used to have so much sex I repeatedly got venereal disease"

#red randomness #p. g. wodehouse #he was so known for not having sex with his beloved wife #that i truly didn't expect this at all #i feel like i see a lot of people saying with a great deal of confidence that he was sex-repulsed ace #especially due to the wife thing #but while he certainly may have been ace on some level #i feel like at the very least this casts some doubt on the sex-repulsed part lmao #i suppose it's possible he was lying but wouldn't this be such a specific and unnecessary lie in this context?#especially for a private letter to a friend he'd known and worked with for decades #because he really didn't even need to bring it up #of course i am open to evidence to the contrary #i just dislike seeing overconfident opinions broadly prevail #even when aspects of a real person's life suggest the possibility of otherwise #the study of history is meant to breed discussion!#and something that goes against the grain of past assumption is certainly worth discussing imo #also very grateful to the unpublished monograph by George Simmers about Honeysuckle Cottage #because that's how i found out about this letter in the first place!#great monograph mr. simmers please publish it someday #opened my third eye about the potential latent homosexuality in that story (among other things)#and at risk of having someone get mad at me or say i'm trying to like. diminish or slander the ace community by saying this #please don't assume that. that's why i've been afraid to share this before.#i'm not confidently stating wodehouse is anything. he's a real man who lived and i didn't know him #but by the same token neither does anyone else #i'm just as tired of people in history who have a fair amount of suggestion of being aroace being broadly assumed gay #despite evidence to the contrary #or people confidently assigning queerness to historical figures when evidence of them being queer in any way is ambiguous at best #everything in history is a maybe. we just collect facts and analyze them.#and my current analysis based on this line is that i'm not sure i think he was very sex-repulsed after all #(but like. i'm not going around insulting or fighting people about it in dms or something. and neither should you)

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suddencolds · 7 months ago

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#delete later #another journal entry 📝 for the void #i have not been sleeping well for the past 2 wks 😵‍💫 i always wake up like clockwork after 5-6 hrs which feels like not nearly enough #i feel like i've done everything there is to do (consistent exercise + consistent sleep times + earplugs + weighted blanket + no caffeine)#last night i took melatonin too but no... same problem staying asleep 😭#ahh whatever. i'm just frustrated that it has to be this way :(#anyways in an act of spite i reread like the 4 wips that have been sitting in my drafts from the past few weeks #i think something that will never cease to surprise me about writing is that more effort/time doesn't necessarily translate to better #results; i suppose that's the case with all kinds of art but #it does feel somewhat unintuitive. one of my fav professors in uni said to not dismiss those 'lightning in a bottle' moments (in art) as #blind luck... but to instead analyze the circumstances and iterate on recreating them. and i think one of my artist friends who i deeply #respect said something similar (wrt artistic rituals/setup). i have too many thoughts on writing and on my own creative processes and #weaknesses to fit into any number of tags here. :') that said...#*shakes ch2 draft* after everything i did and all the hours i spent WHY are you still so bad?!!! D: i am baffled and frustrated.#and why do i prefer this other [redacted] draft which i hammered out with utterly no regard towards the quality??#anyways. back to the drawing board i guess T.T

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raindrvq · 7 months ago

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thinking abt how in english last year we had to do an assignment if a To Kill A Mockingbird character was living in modern day what would their phone look like and what would their music playlist be and why and i chose Boo Radley and put Radiohead on it AND THEN MY ENGLISH TEACHER KEPT IT TO USE AS AN EXAMPLE 🧍‍♂️

#i think i have a picture of it from when i sent it to my friends being like 'why tf am i analyzing boo radley to radiohead rn'#genuinely cannot be casual about books i read in english its bad. you thought it was just the outsiders nah #im just a huge english nerd who loves analyzing things so. i wasnt even hyperfixatated on tkam i just like analysis that much ig #a lot of my english teachers have kept my old assignments and i think abt it a lot bc like what if my friends who had the teacher after me #were using my assignments as an example like thats silly to me idk 😭#cam says stuff

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icewindandboringhorror · 2 years ago

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I know multiple of these are likely important to people, but I'm asking in terms of like - which of these do you tend to focus on the MOST, enjoy the most, that is most essential for you to actually care about the media, etc.?

(For example: someone finding "Relatability" most important would likely not enjoy a show much if they have trouble empathizing with the characters/relating to it, even if it were good otherwise. Or, someone might be able to overlook bad acting and ugly costumes, as long as the Character Dynamics are fun to them, because they value that more than Aesthetics- while for others, bad costumes would be a dealbreaker.)

Also feel free to reblog and explain your answer or more information in the tags- I've always been curious about people's relationships to media, how they conceptualize it/what they get out of it, how some people value some parts more than others, how that informs their overall taste and genres they may be more inclined towards, etc. :0c

#I was having a conversation with a friend about our favorite type of media and they said the reason they DON'T like historical or fantasy #media or etc. is because they can't imagine themselves being in those situations like it's too detached from anything that they can relate #to personally. they put themselves in the shoes of the characters and apparently like feel emotions while watching stuff and actually #get into the way the characters are feeling so they kind of judge how 'good' or 'bad' a show's writing/setting/etc. are by how it makes #them feel and if they think the characters reacted realistically based on what they were feeling in the moment/what in their head they #would be feeling if they were in the postion of the character. SO apparently the distance of it being in an unrelatable setting or too #detached from our reality makes it harder for them to relate to and less able to really engage with it on that level. WHEREAS I watch #things exclusively in a very like.. detached way?? I'm INTERESTED.. it's like im intellectually analyzing everyhting that's happening and #can be intrigued by events but it's not in an emotional way? More of like a distant 'intellectual curiosity'. Maybe the premise or the #aesthetics or something about it has piqued an interest for me to observe it. to see what it's like or how it plays out. how the idea #is executed or etc. But like.. I cannot remember EVER really relating to any character or situation or projecting onto a character #or having those sorts of feelings or investment in it. That is just not a central part of why/how I watch things or what I care about #BUT after this I was thinking maybe this is my disconnect? I do not seem to conceptualize media the way some other people do and I often #walk away with an entirely different take on things. etc. So I wonder if maybe it's part of how everyone values different things probably?#maybe I literally just watch stuff and percieve it from a different frame of mind that others. More of a like detached curiosity #vaguely bemused analysis mode. Instead of a 'I am deeply emotionally invested in this and am feeling for all the characters' mode #And also I bet people who care more about plot/story are also the people who mind spoilers. Whereas for me I literally seek out spoilers #intentionally because that element of 'suprise ooh what will happen next!' is not central at all to my enjoyment. I could know literally #everything that will happen and still can find it interesting to observe - since for me #that's not the point. I'd rather know the ending so I can determine whether I want to invest the time in it in the first place. etc.#ANYWAY!! If I had to choose - I would say I'm usually heavily focused on world details and aesthetics. With only a slight preference #towards characters individually being interesting. Group dynamics can sometimes be okay but I get tired of everything being about relations #hips and romance - especially when sometimes it seems to be like. people who could not stand on their own as a character/are fundamentally #boring otherwise lol. I would watch a series of just one guy locked in a closet talking to himself as long as he was interesting and saying #things that were amusing or notable for some reason lol. I actually tend to dislike plot because most 'plot heavy' things like action focus #ed shows ALWAYS feel to me like they're moving so fast just to get from one thing to another that I'm not getting enough details. Part of #why I tend to not like movies. the time limit makes them too quick. I need a 95 hour expostion dump of the history of the entire world #and a series of 17 episodes straight where a guy is trapped in a room & the audience is just psychoanalyzing him. hghj.. Maybe I find all #characters annoying/unrelatable bc people w my personality type make bad characters/are not often represented (or are done BADLY). so then #I'm just picking 'who is the LEAST insufferable? who could i study like a lab rat?' whilst my main focus is the worldbuilding&costumes lol

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salmoncakepls · 6 months ago

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#also idk if we are in a gothic setting then idt itd make sense for the show to have a happy (& neat) ending... ambiguousness and/or tragedy #is ur friend .. no matter the 'pairing' he ends up to he is still gonna be in a guilded cage or if he ends up w/ no one it'll be that vampi #loneliness along with old haunts (plsss hauntss) & sometimes...even ppl i like forget the focus of the story itself is claudia...like ur #falling into the shipping propaganda its not abt that thats not the point of it either likee u can like what u want but to complain bout #smthn that didnt even happen is annoyingg #these men are having a midoff this drama is exquisite i prayy for ghost claudia every night godbless #random thoughts #but also loll #i yam being annoying i love character pairings its just i hate when other ppl dont match my energy on certain things so its a me problem #its the mainreason why i really did not want to be online or rlly talk to anyone during the show bc its not necessarily wrong opinions (tho #i have seen some things that are wrong) just that i get annoyed very easily when I am trying to. analyze these characters and you have #someone yelling in ur ear abt xyz when xyz is not that significant under the context theyre putting it in #but imma drop it i like focusing on the current episode and giving into that letting the tale seduce you still letting it this is just and #an aside

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1eeminho · 7 months ago

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what i noticed recently is that with some people i act normal and with some people im so fucking weird like im trying not to be but its Hard for some reason and i havent found a pattern. i need to find a pattern and put a stop to this seriously i havent worked my ass off to learn to be normal since high school for this to happen now

#theres no rhyme or rhythm to it #with some people i just cannot act like im a person who is not weird .#also i dont mean this in a self-deprecating way at all its how i am but i wanna know whyy #why do some people trigger the weird more than others #i need more psychologist friends who can analyze me #psych people pls contact me lets analyze each other

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skitskatdacat63 · 8 months ago

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#I wish you could send people a survey every month #like 'do you still like me' 'are you growing tired of me' 'am i too annoying'#i feel like deep down i know my friends like me #but i get wound up so often just questioning every interaction #and over analyzing it till it makes me feel ill #you can have a convo and it wont be the best most perfect convo in the world every time #yeah thats how it works!#but i start overthinking every thing and its so hard to rationalize myself #EVEN THOUGH I HAVE NO REASON TO THINK THIS IN THE FIRST PLACE #god i hate this #i wish i could remove the ability of self introspection #why must i question every interaction and run in circles making myself think im living in some world where i am hated and disgust people #ah man being alone at home is not good for me #i dont hate to be alone but i have too much time to think and its very dangerous #its bad bcs like i dont want to question people #like if i found out a friend thought i was losing interest in them id be so sad!#but it's impossible to think from the other perspective #instead i just start making conspiracy theories to myself abt how i am detested actually #sry i think i go on this rant every month #im lonely :(#catie.rambling.txt

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lieutenant-amuel · 11 months ago

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This is probably not that common but I honestly rarely like characters who are like me personality wise.

#Personal #I don’t know I suppose I just don’t like how they’re portrayed in media #Because if a character is introverted it automatically makes them aloof and cold #or even worse when they have some sort of trauma that makes them self-blaming and hopelessly insecure #Like where are introverted characters who enjoy solitude!#Where are introverted characters who love people who know how to joke smile and laugh and oh my goodness have friends!#Just where #Why can’t they enjoy their introverted self and instead constantly think there’s something wrong with them #I don’t know I really enjoy outgoing and extraverted characters more #and if they remain outgoing and kind even if they also have some sort of trauma #this is just peak character type to me #I don’t know I have a special connection with characters if their STORIES resonate with me not their personality #I love Elena (EoA) I love Anna (Frozen) I love Rebecca (Crazy Ex Girlfriend) and yet I’m nothing like them personality wise #But their stories especially Rebecca’s speak so much to me #And really why should I even love characters only because they’re like me I love a freaking Darth Vader and he’s a villain #(yeah this is me saying that I am not a villain XD)#Anyway in conclusion I’ll just say that I actually don’t really have a type and just love fictional characters because of the vibes XD #If I’m vibing with them and they make me feel something (well except for irritation I suppose) I do like them #Because as I was saying if I like something in most cases I really cannot explain why XD it just happens #(unless I start analyzing why I do like them…)#I’m suspiciously talkative recently…#Just voicing everything I have on my mind

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didhewinkback · 1 year ago

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tiktok is such an endless double edged sword of yes strangers on the internet should not be having endless discourse about your life that they know nothing about but also why are you posting videos about intimate moments of your life in hopes the entire world sees it

#it just astounds me tbh !!#like that video of the girls boyfriend and best friend playfighting that has been trending for days on twitter is such a prime example #like this is a video to send to your friends who know you well and know the vibe #instead you have thousands of people being like theyre fucking behind your back #which like maybe they are but why put that on the internet and subject yourself to the discourse ?!?!#and now subject them to the scrutiny like weirdos are screenshotting and analyzing every second of the video #like grwm videos are so so so weird to me #if i do not know you personally why am i seeing what you look like before you leave the house in the morning #surveillance state r us #its all SO weird

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scaryfilm · 1 year ago

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Hi. good lord.

#Hi do u ever have a dynamic in something that means so much to u. like it means so much to u in ur heart #and it is just SOO important to u. ok yes this is MEE this is me rn #but like.. i get RLY nervous talking abt it because it IS something i care abt very deeply and it definitely goes BEYOND just a general #interest. like i have put genuine TIME and THOUGHT into analyzing this.. and its kind of become my HEARTT and SOULL!!!!!!#and like i want to talk abt it with friends but i feel kind of IDK vulnerable doing that?idk my brains weird #like.. id love to talk abt but the thought of the person im talking to NOT rly understanding why i feel the way i do abt it..ERM like.#turns me off abt it I GUESS...#so often times i wont talk abt this thing. because i am very passionate abt it and if the other person isnt as passionate abt it as i am #i get like. weird.....Idk im a freak #idk this is a vent but not rly a neg one?#just me spilling my thoughts

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niuxita21 · 2 years ago

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TFW the Girl You Love Tells You “Thanks But No Thanks. You’re Still My Best Friend, Tho!” - A novel by Ana

#madre solo hay dos #ana servín #shitty screencap posts (TM)#me: I will only be able to make a couple of posts about this episode bc it hurt so much and I can't keep rewatching this scene #also me: *spams the tl with ten million posts*#but LISTEN #I am ASTOUNDED at how well this bit captured that sort of weary disappointment lesbians are all too familiar with #when the girl they're in love with is like 'you're my best friend!' (unspoken second part of that sentence: 'and nothing more')#I'm gonna try to articulate why but like #from what we know of canon I don't think ana has ever in her life had feelings for another woman who friendzoned her #and yet here she is getting her heart broken by another woman for the first time and it's just SO RELATABLE #to those of us who HAVE been there before you know?#because I don't think she would have the same microexpression if mariana had been a dude #there's something there that screams 'yeah haven't heard THAT one before' and it's just... *chef's kiss*#(me? analyzing ana's microexpressions as a coping mechanism? it's more likely than you'd think!)#also this is just a friendly psa (although I don't think anyone is reading my tag vomit which definitely is for the best)#but my blog is a mariana hate-free blog and I'll start caping for her if I have to :)#I'm just here to have fun (and get my heart shredded by a silly mexican comedy apparently life is wild sometimes)

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suddencolds · 4 months ago

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#very random (not snz) haha but #does anyone else feel like their social battery fluctuates like. 0 to 100 with no middle ground or is this perhaps something wrong with me #i will go for weeks without having the social energy to talk to people i love and treasure 😭#maybe it's a lack of dopamine in general idk... would not be thrilled to add another mental illness to the list #but then i'll have a night where i am super talkative and happily reply to half the people i've been talking to #or times when i send off all my responses and sit at my laptop like when are my friends going to reply 🙂 i can't wait to talk to them 🙂#i apologize if you have personally been on the receiving end of my extreme inconsistency 😭#i have been thinking about it recently and i think that's in part the reason why i also gravitate towards long form conversations;#it feels mentally easier for me to deliver a meaningful response once in a blue moon than like sustain that level of #conversational depth on a more consistent basis? because i am inconsistent #but sometimes in the long wait between responses (which i have arguably played a large role in establishing) i feel unexpectedly social and #then feel strangely lonely 😭 (🤡)... truly i feel like i am lowkey a badly adjusted adult #this is not a catastrophizing post (though i did catastrophize slightly more over it in past weeks); just passive musings atp #i go through similar flows with artistic motivation but the highs and lows are not synced with my social energy at all #i think i am someone who likes to analyze my habits just as a whole because i really enjoy optimizing for things 😭 so this tendency in #particular really perplexes me #delete later perhaps because i know this is truly a yap post. (i apologize)#i met with a friend earlier irl and this might be the remnants of the social energy from seeing her or it might be a function of #the drink i had (strawberry matcha 🥰) if you have read this far i apologize personally

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cat-madhouse · 2 years ago

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I think that me thinking I'm a compulsive manipulator for most of my "aware life" has something to do with the tism

#i was watching a video on an autistic person 'reviewing' a book used by therapists to communicate with autistic people (and for cbt as well)#(which. cbt for autistic people is not a good idea at all for multiple reasons but that's not the point)#and the person started talking about the fact that they say in the book that allistics communicate by not clearly stating their intentions #(so subtext and hidden meaning behind words)#and i was nodding along like 'yep that's how it works you have to analyze everything or you'll be ridiculed eventually'#and then the autistic person recording said *not* 'we have to analyze what they say'#but 'we have to Not say what we mean in order to communicate effectively with them' and i went wait no that's manipulative #(keep in mind i was watching that video listening in for signs that i am NOT autistic because as my only irl friend says: i am in denial)#and i think that i. started masking as a survival mechanism and imitating nt people #and reading subtext and acting 'allistically' is a big part of that and. my potentially autistic brain was recognizing that as manipulation #(as a means of survival)#like i had times as a kid where not reading subtext made me be ridiculed or ostracized or mocked #so i started doing it as well but my non allistic brain recognized that as manipulation because it wasn't natural for me #and i think maybe that's also why i like analyzing texts and finding new meanings in things so much #and why i care so much about the origins of non-literal expressions like #... i don't have an english example right now but you get the idea #that. realization is very reassuring actually #maybe i'm not as bad of a person as i thought...?#sunny

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icewindandboringhorror · 4 months ago

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Everytime I face a new character limit on a website that didn't have them before/used to have really long ones... AUGHHhhh the modern social media world was not made for people like me (lovers of details, rambling, elaboration, thorough explanation, and nuance)

#twitter and other short form shit and everything being a Phone App On Small Screen instead of a Proper #Computer Website i feel like has just ruined the format of literally everything for me. Thoughts just keep getting more and more condensed #with detail and nuance taken away. everything over simplified into only the basics. blah blah blah. I've already probably rambled about thi #all before but it's just SO frustrating. I literally just CAN NOT talk that way!!! even if I try!!! I took multiple advanced placement #english & language arts classes in school and I literally never made below an A on any assignment EVER except for ESSAYS #where I would legit get almost failing grades just because I cannt express myself concisely. I took an english placement test thats made to #like evaluate your competency in a subject and out of the 102 multiple choice questions I only missed TWO of them. almost a perfect #score. But for the 5 open response questions (about articulating thoughts succinctly) I did not get a single one of them lol #I only got partial credit on 3. It's like I OBVIOUSLY understand the material and I know how Words Work and how to analyze and interpret #meaning and etc. etc. But it's just when I have to express myself CLEANLY I can't. It's always ''well you have very good points and you #get around to the idea eventually and I think it's very insightful - but it just needs to be shorter/the side tangent needs to be removed/#etc.'' I've always wondered if it has something to do with being on the schizophrenia spectrum and how that can cause disorganized #speech sometimes hmm..ANYWAY.. But I just naturally express myself in a very particular way which is lengthy and I can't rea #ly seem to control it. So it's basically like just.. being gradually pushed out of every place that won't accomodate people with different #ways of like perceiving and expressing or etc. Everything cannot ALWAYS be 100% 'Short and Snappy and To The Point' or a quippy one #liner or the Bare Minimum of information being provided or etc. Some peoples brains just do not work like that!!!!! Sorry I operate #in detail and elaboration lol. ANYWAY.. I still sometimes use random ''dating sites'' like OKCupid to look for platonic friends since #I never leave the house so it's hard for me to just meet friends naturally. And I just realized today that they added a RIDICULOUSLY small #character limit to their messaging system (2000 words?? augh). And also took away answer explanations (when you answer a compatibility #question you used to have a space to give detail and explain why you answered the way you did) and removed a few other features and it's ju #t like.. how the fuck is any of this actually helpful in terms of judging compatibility? take away ALL nuance and anyting that actually #is meant to tell you anything about a person? Bumble's character limits for your profile description are even more fucking insane and so #is every other disgustingly minimalistic place I've seen like.. OKC used to be superior BECAUSE it allowed for a TON of detail. like back i #2016 or something there was SO much data you could look at. long form question answers. personality trait summaries. etc. Now you have #SOO little to judge off of when evaluating compatibiility it's like. You'd have better luck just throwing a dart in a crowded street and #talking to whoever it hits. Why are people so fucking allergic to reading anything longer than 3 words and providing DETAILS!! It just seem #harder and harder to find any place to meet platonic friends where you have any amount of actual data to go off of and it isnt basically #just random 'speed dating' set up shit. AARGH. &I know 'oh just join a club& meet ppl irl' 1. erm..covid. 2.I mostly want to meet ppl #in places I'd like to move so I already know ppl when I get there. You kind of HAVE to do that online. bc I am not there yet.. WISHING for #Complexity.Com where ppl can upload full 900 page psychological files of themselves. MINIMUM profile character limit 30k words lol

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herbalinz · 2 years ago

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27 this year and aspire to be a good fandom auntie :3

You're not embarrassed being an old woman and being in tumblr? I would rather die that my grannies have an actual account on tumblr for celebrities rho

Why would I be embarrassed for having interests I enjoy? My guess is that you’re really, really young. And that maybe you don’t actually have solid relationships with adults who have lives outside of parenting or work. But I hope for you that when you’re my age you have hobbies that bring you happiness. And that by that point you realize that trying to shame someone for being an adult only makes you look too immature to be in adult spaces, which Tumblr is.

When I was 20, I loved music, making art, writing and reading good stories, fashion, talking about popular culture, making friends, going to concerts… You’d be surprised how little changes when you’re my age. I just have way more money and time to enjoy those things now. I’m only 55. I’m not dead. I’m also not a “granny”, but even if I was, I’d probably still like all of those things.

Ageism isn’t cute, love. And I sure don’t ever see people telling men they shouldn’t go to football games or have their little “fantasy football leagues” or wear their favorite player’s merch. For every comment you guys like to say is misogynistic (but isn’t), this is one that really reeks of it.

#i am an auntie now right?#if i were back home lil kids on bus and subway would have called me auntie fs #remember how when i just graduated from college and the age anxiety hit me like a fuckin train #pov: growing up female #and with a mom who often talks about how women loses value year by year #yeah #when i was 26 I started to really settle into some of the benefits of aging including but not limited to #better sex 😂#money #money for mfa #realizing what I really love doing #the resolve to actually use that money #bc no parent judging everything you buy and give you a lecture analyzing why you should get what they think suit you instead #own home #a partner with deep connection and family of my own choosing and effort #found-family friends #who are mature and don’t give you headaches bc of drama #cat

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qstarhalo · 8 days ago

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I should rewatch "Journey to Joke-a-lot" for the fun of it

#Like the thing is for me is that Funshine literally JUST WANTS TO MAKE HIS FRIENDS LAUGH!!!#And like. that's all that Funshine wants. He wants his friends to have fun #And obviously his way isn't always the most. preferable especially when it comes to Grumpy but that's just Grumpy #Anyways why am I like analyzing Funshine um sorry about that #care bears #funshine bear #stars messages

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